Wedding Planner

The moment has finally arrived for me to put all my garbled mess of wedding plans out onto a post and hopefully get my thoughts and arrangements much clearer! As I’m sure you all know by now, I and my partner got engaged in May 2021, I immediately started speaking to both sets of our parents and my friends and we started trying to piece initial plans together, but I soon realised that as much as everyone wants to help, everybody also wants to inject their own ideas into your wedding day. Don’t get me wrong I'm so thankful for the support and the help from my friends and family who have had weddings or at least helped to plan others, but there comes a point when you have to say to yourself that this is a day just for you and your partner so no matter what anybody else thinks, the decision ultimately has to come from you.

That is both an incredibly exciting and terrifying thought! It’s all well and good having a Pinterest board from the age of 14 full of wedding ideas (guilty) but when I actually look back at this board of ideas, I realised how impractical a lot of it was and how I didn't actually want a lot of the grander things I had originally wanted. I started to panic because I didn't even know where to start, but then I found this app called Hitched. 

***I want to make it VERY clear. This post isn’t sponsored by Hitched or by any of the companies and services I speak about, they didn't ask me to speak about them, it's just that Hitched has become my saving grace so I’m hoping if you’re feeling the same way as me it might offer some help***

I’m gonna go through all the things on Hitched wedding day checklist that they suggest you do, even if we decide not to do some of the things, I’ll let you know about them anyway in case it’s something you’re interested in. This post will be something I update whenever there’s something to be ticked off the list or a new development, our wedding isn’t until 2023 so we have a lot of time to plan it and get it just the way we want it! 

I had a look on the Hitched website and saw they had a different checklist to our one, this one detailed planning for a wedding from 18 months in advance which is perfect for our time scale, so I’m going to use some ideas from that one too and let you know what we’ve done so far and what’s next. 

  1. Plan a preliminary guest list 
This is such an important step and one that we did almost straight away. As I started researching venues, I realised that every venue would ask us how many people were coming, obviously, this is so they can give you a rough price and see if the venue is suitable for your wedding party. The best way to plan the guest list is to split it up into 2 parts; the ceremony and the reception/ evening. If like us, you have people coming from all over the place it may be better to only invite some to the ceremony and save the rest for the reception, we’re planning on having a relatively small ceremony with no more than 50-60 people, this may sound like a lot but when you think that each person has a “plus one” that really means we only have 25-30 people coming plus their partners/ children. 

When you start to think of it split into the people you want for the ceremony and those that you want to join in with the party aspect later on, it became clear to me who to invite to which part. Of course, some of you may want all those present at the reception to also be there at the ceremony, which is great, but we found it easier to split it up and invite some people later on. 
We’re all able to think of our close friends, parents, and relatives to come to the wedding but it may be worth sitting down with a parent or someone close to you who knows your more distant relatives (if you would like them to come…remember, this is still your day) and decide who would be able to come from that group. 
We have a preliminary guest list and have settled on 50-60 for the ceremony as mentioned before and then another 30-40 for the reception, so that overall (if everyone is available to come) there should be between 90-100 people at the wedding reception. For us, this is a good amount and it gives a little buffer room to invite others if some of our friends and family can’t attend. 

If you have a similar time scale to us, then this preliminary guest list needs to be done 18 months before the wedding day (by November 2021 for us). 

  1. Prepare a rough budget 
This is obviously a key part of wedding planning, we aren’t gonna get very far if we don't know how much money we have to spend! We are very fortunate in that my dad has offered to pay for the wedding, although this is a huge weight off our shoulders it does mean that I think it’s only right my parents (especially my dad) have the main say in the decisions we make as ultimately it’s his money being spent. 
This only needs to be a rough budget, for now, just one that outlines what you can afford to spend on the venue, wedding outfits, wedding favours, florists, hair & makeup, photography/videography, music/ band, ceremony food, and drink, reception food and drink. 
There are probably other minute things you could add to this list but these are the main ones and with the help of your preliminary guest list you should be able to plan out how much certain things will cost and decide what's best for you and your budget. 

Everybody’s wedding is different, some things on here that I deem important you may not have thought about at all compared to other things I may not have mentioned. Each wedding is unique and what works for one is not always suitable for another, if you have plans to make or arrange certain things for yourselves like we have with the florist and music then you might not need to really budget these things in apart from materials/resources you may need or people you need to contact. 
Making this rough budget just lets you lay out the money you have and see if it’s enough, too much (well done!) or maybe you need to save a little bit more. Remember, we’re still looking to get this done by November 2021 so there are still over 18 months to add to the budget if it’s not enough. 

  1. Reserve a venue and settle on a date 
Now the venue has been booked and paid for I can tell you that we're getting married at Nonsuch Mansion in Sutton! I'll add some pictures down below but it's an absolutely beautiful venue that offers us loads of space for a great evening as well 11 bedrooms upstairs for all of our family to stay too. Finding the right venue I think is the most important step, it’s the setting of your entire day, the place where all your pictures will be taken, the environment that your family and loved ones will always remember, and of course, a place that will always become special to you! 

We researched so many venues near to us, near my partner's family in Manchester, and near my family in Wiltshire so that we had seen all the options available to us. There were a few stand out places such as The Natural History Museum in London, Hampton Court Palace, Kew Gardens, and Chester Zoo (yes, really) that I had dreamed of a wedding at and although it wasn’t meant to be I had a lot of fun speaking to people from the venues and seeing what our day could have been like with them. 
When looking at venues you don’t just want to see if you love how it looks, they need to have the right capacity amount, offer a suitable menu or food suppliers, have ample space for the bridal party to get ready, or even possible accommodation if like us you have people coming from far away. All of these things had to be taken into consideration and when you find somewhere that ticks all those boxes you then have to see if they’re not only available on your date but that their pricing fits in with your budget.  

The date of your wedding is also hugely important and shouldn’t be overlooked. For some, they don’t have a specific date and if a venue offers a more affordable date then that may be the one they choose. For us, I had originally planned to get married on the 8th March as that was the day we first became a couple, but I was advised that winter weddings are no fun (I was a bit upset but I understood), thankfully we got engaged in May so I then chose this date as our wedding date, speaking with the venue my preferred date was DOUBLE the price of the day before, I spoke with my parents and we agreed that we’re still getting the same experience, same wedding, and same venue but it made more sense financially to book the day before so that we had more budget for everything else, again I was a bit disappointed that I still couldn’t have the exact date I had planned but I’ve had a thought that now our wedding anniversary and the day after can become a little 2 day holiday each year, so maybe it worked out for the best! 
As before, this initial reservation of a venue and date needs to be done 18 months before (November 2021 for us), we are currently at this stage where the venue is aware of what date we want but we just have to book a registrar beforehand, which we’ll talk about in the next part! 

    4. Research and Book a Registrar 

This part I didn't know anything about, I knew we needed someone to legally come and marry us during the wedding but I kind of assumed it was is most definitely not provided!

 Luckily, our amazing wedding planner at Nonsuch, Olivia told us that our local registrar for the wedding is Leatherhead Registry Office, so I got in contact with them, and over the course of about 2 months, I was able to speak to them and book the date and time that we wanted! They were really lovely there, making the whole thing personal and being really kind and positive. After speaking to the registry office, Olivia, and our parents we all agreed that a 3pm ceremony would be best so that we had plenty of time to get ready beforehand. Much like finding a venue, a registrar must be done AS SOON AS you've chosen a venue, much like I said in the last part, the venue should advise you to book the registrar before paying the deposit for the venue, because as beautiful as Nonsuch is, it's not much use if we can't legally get married there! 

After I spoke with the registry office, they emailed me over a whole host of information, but most importantly a "ceremony checklist" that outlined how the actual ceremony would go, from the introductory (optional choice) of the "giving away" of the bride, through the vows and then exchanging of rings (also optional). I think as the vows are a binding contract I probably can't post them on here but you have three options (unless you use your own, of course). 
    OPTION 1: "I am" This option is quite short, the registrar will just outline why you're here, who you are and you'll then be asked if you agree and are legally available to marry the person in front of you, to which you reply "I am", of course, it's far nicer than I'm making it sound but if you're particularly nervous this one might be ok because it's quite short. 
    OPTION 2: "I do" this is probably the most famous set of vows, it has all the same information, it's slightly longer and focuses more on the bringing together of these people and their close family, rather than just the vows itself. 
    OPTION 3: "I will" this is the version we've gone for. Although this may be the longest one, it's so beautiful and I think fits perfectly with us and our day. The vows focus on not only bringing us together but it speaks about bringing all our family and friends together too. But the part we liked best was that the vows focus on us as "best friends" and says how being best friends has brought us to now being life partners and how we should always remember the friendship that brought us together in the first place, I think that's really beautiful and I can't wait to hear it for real!  

There are a few more legal bits to do with this that I'll get into later on in the plan but for now, I'll let you know that booking the registrar was around £600 which includes them bringing a physical copy of your marriage certificate for you to sign at the end of the ceremony, I know this is nowhere near as expensive as the venue will be, but it's still a huge cost and should be budgeted in early. If you're following an 18-month guideline you should aim to have this done by months 5-6, just so that it's out the way as this will be your biggest cause of stress. 

That's all the big, legal bits out the way, now we can get onto planning all the little bits for the day! Next up we'll talk about choosing a theme and colour scheme.

    5. Plan a Theme and Colour Scheme 

For some of us, this part is blatantly obvious, you know which colours you love and you can see a clear vision for your wedding. I was not one of those people. I just assumed "all-white" was the most obvious colour scheme to go for but then my friends and family suggested thinking about my partner's and I favourite colours; mine being purple and his being sky blue, so we settled on a combined colour scheme of lilac/lavender and sky blue. I liked the tropical colours you think of when you think of this colour combo, but when it comes to buying bridesmaids dresses and flowers in those colours I definitely see softer, more pastel colours which will still stand out against my white dress and the vintage interior of our venue but won't make the bridesmaids stand out too much or feel silly!  
I had a look at colour charts online and this was the best one I could find to describe my idea, the two middle pastel blue and purple is what I'm going for so we'll base the bridesmaids dresses on those colours. 

Image from Pinterest

Now for the theme, for me, this bit was way more fun, although I'm interested in colour theories and looking into how different shades of different colours go together, planning an entire theme for the day was much more me! Now you may laugh when I say this next bit but trust me I'm being serious. I wanted to plan my entire wedding dress look on Jenny's outfit from the film Forrest, seriously. I love the long, flowy dress, the large, beautiful flower crown and their outdoor setting by the lake was lovely but obviously, we've gone for more of a stately home vibe for our wedding venue (it does still have an archway just like the film though). 
But the more we spoke about the wedding the more it became apparent that I wanted a more hippie/boho vibe and to make the biggest day of our lives the most sustainable we could. 

We spent a long time picking out the perfect venue that would have ample space for our family and friends as well as accommodation so those coming from afar could stay the night, I also spoke to the venue wedding planner about the menu and asked if they used seasonal food and how they tackle food waste (yes, I was this in-depth, but they were brilliant and more than happy to shout about their brilliant practices), they explained that the menus are always seasonal and use seasonal ingredients in each dish to pair with the time of year, she also said that the chef only makes enough for the exact size of the wedding party (plus an extra handful to give to the staff) which is why there is rarely any food waste (unless people don't eat all their food!), I thought this was brilliant and made me feel that we'd made the right choice, she also said the bar doesn't use plastic so although you can't take drinks outside at least we won't be throwing away plastic cups either. In regards to the menu, they also offer a huge array of meat, seafood, vegetarian, and some vegan options too as well as options for those with allergies. 
We haven't picked our menu yet but at some point, we'll have a tasting so I'll be able to tell you all about it then!  

Now onto how to make a wedding venue more eco friendly. My biggest concern was waste; flowers, gifts, table settings, table numbers, all of this creates such a huge amount of stuff that, let's be honest most of will end up in the bin so I wanted to put a stop to it before it starts. We're having minimal flowers, each bridesmaid will have a small corsage on their wrist and I'm having a flower crown and modest bouquet (both of which I will be drying out and framing after the wedding), I don't plan on large sprawls of flowers over the tables, seats or around the room. I saw someone use cacti on their tables and I have enough to put at least one on each table so we might do that, but right now we like the idea of going round to charity shops and picking up vases in different sizes and putting unscented candles inside, I think it will create a much more romantic look especially in the evening and after the wedding, all the guests are free to take any vase/candle they like as a memento! 
This was the picture I found on Pinterest that gave me the idea. 

Image from Pinterest

We will be picking a florist, videographer/photographer, and any other services we need that are local to the venue so they don't have to come far and increase that carbon footprint. I have an idea for the flower crown that I will be using passion flowers from my partners' parents garden and lavender from my mum and dads garden to symbolise us all coming together (and it'll be more eco friendly as these flowers didn't need to be specially grown) but I will speak to a florist and see what they recommend with that, and finally, we plan to give fruit tree saplings as our wedding favours, I've done some research and see a place where you can bulk buy tree saplings for a reasonable price, then I'm gonna sit them in toilet paper tubes and leave them for guests to take, I loved this idea of still being able to say thank you for attending but in a much more sustainable way, and each family gets to take home a fruit tree that hopefully they can grow and eat from for the rest of their lives! 

Image from Pinterest

By the way, I know these are herbs in these pots, but it was just a reference image from Pinterest that gave me the idea for fruit tree saplings. 

So in one sentence, our wedding day theme is "boho with a sustainable twist".

    6. Choose The Wedding Party 

This bit shouldn't take too long to talk about. When we talk about the wedding party we mean the main people involved in the wedding day so the bride, groom, mother and father of both, maid of honour, bridesmaids, best man, page boys and flower girls and any other person you might want to bring in to the big day! 
We've chosen my dad to give me away, I have two maids of honour and 3 bridesmaids, my partner isn't sure about a best man yet so we're still working that out and we don't plan on having any page boys/ flower girls as I don't want to throw flower petals all over the floor of the venue, haha! 
This shouldn't take very long to figure out as I'm sure you already know the important people in your life that you want to include, and also if you don't want any of this you don't have to! I think legally you have to have two witnesses at the wedding to legally say someone saw you both consensually get married but apart from that it could be as intimate as you want. I wanted to include as many of my friends as possible as I don't have a whole host of close friends, so the ones that are, are really special to me and I wanted them to be an integral part of our day.

    7. Start a Gift List

Again, this next one is completely optional, but if there are certain material things you've been needing but wouldn't buy for yourselves you can create a gift list, where you ask the guests to bring something from the list...if you are doing this make sure it's done right! You don't want to end up with two washing machines and 10 kettles!! 
We've chosen not to make a material gift list as we've been living together for almost 6 years now, we've pretty much got everything we need. What we were originally going to ask for was money to put towards the honeymoon, then we realised we could probably just do that ourselves so we had the brilliant idea of Airbnb gift vouchers! We love going on holiday anywhere in the world and staying in an Airbnb, it's just so fun and makes you feel more connected to the place you go...but then we realised we're gonna end up with like 30 different vouchers to look after, so now, finally, we've settled on asking for money to put towards decorating a nursery when we buy a house! 

We felt this was the option that made the most sense to us, and we think we'll probably set up an account together and just put the bank details on the invite so that people can transfer however much they want, when they feel comfortable, that way no physical cash has to come to the wedding and no one has to feel bad if they can't give much or anything at all! 
As I said, it's up to you if you want to do any of this or you're just happy with your guests turning up, whatever makes you and your partner happy. This doesn't have a specific time frame, just start thinking of the idea about 8-10 months before and at worst have the gift list ready to be used around 3 months before when you send the wedding invites. 

    8.    Collect Guest List Information 

Now that you've got your list of who you want to invite, it's time to fine-tune that list, start asking around and make sure people are actually aware of the wedding and the date BEFORE you send the "save the dates" out, I did this because I didn't want to spend money and resources on invites for people who aren't able to come, obviously, circumstances may change closer to the time and there's nothing I can do about that, but just asking before means at least the day is in people's minds (and hopefully their calendars!) so when the invite does reach them they can get back to you with a definite answer.  

I also took this time to gather the addresses and email addresses/ phone numbers of everyone we wanted to invite, if you prefer to speak on social media just make sure you've got everyone you need on there so that you're able to speak to each person individually if you need to, this way you'll save yourself lots of time when you send invites out too because you've already got everyone's addresses! 
It's really important that this bit is done because although you may not know a definite number at this point, the venue is charging you based on your guest numbers, so this information needs to be gathered around 10 months before and you NEED to confirm EXACT guest numbers no later than 8 weeks before your wedding day. 

    9. Contact Photographers/ Videographers

This bit was one of the easiest decisions for us, but also one of the most expensive! Yet again, we used Hitched to research photographers around Sutton, Surrey and South East London, we shortlisted around 6 and we didn't have that strict of a criteria just that we wanted a service that offered both photography and videography together, but much like a lot of the wedding planning so far, it didn't turn out exactly how we had expected.   
We started by obviously viewing the portfolios of each one, going onto their individual websites, messaging and emailing them to see if they could give us a rough quote for their service, but something I found was that no one we spoke to actually offered videography and photography as one all-inclusive package! I was really surprised at that, most did offer both services but you basically booked one package of photography and one package of videography, but this would end up costing so much money we ended up booking two separate services. 

Before I get onto who we actually chose and their prices I'll talk about what we should be looking for; first of all, you NEED to check availability with them; are they actually available on your wedding day and are they willing to work the hours you need them to? Just for reference, most photographers will offer you a "Half-Day" rate for 5 hours work or a "Full-Day" rate for up to 10 hours work, we chose the Full-Day so we could include all the getting ready and the end of the night too. 
Then you need to choose a photography style that you enjoy, some photographers have their own style and you can pick from those or you might already have an idea of what you want the photos to look like so you can research from there, we didn't know what we were looking for, we were just trying to find the absolute best package for our money (and I think we did!).
After this you need to try and work out their personality, are they very open to trying new things or do they have a set way of working? Do they actually seem excited and happy to be photographing your wedding day? You want to find someone who clearly loves what they do, then no matter the price you'll end up with brilliant photos. 
And finally, the price. The all-important thing is does this fit into your budget and if it's too expensive but you're willing to stretch, are they worth it? I've seen a whole host of price points on photography and videography but most seem to start at around £1,000 for each service on a Full-Day rate, of course, different people offer different prices so have a good look around, but that's just a general number.  

For our photographer, we went with The Kensington Photographer. They seem to be one of if not THE best photographer in the England wedding scene, although they are definitely one of the most expensive, the service that they offer, their wonderful personalities, as well as their actual photos, are all second to none and we're so excited to see what they can do! 
We've chosen their Platinum Full-Day Wedding Photography Package for £1,795. This includes over 500 photos throughout all aspects of the day, prints of a selection of the photos, every single photo edited in colour and black and white, a wooden keepsake box for the pictures and a USB stick featuring all the photos and they also have an app where your family can access the photos and print them off too! I thought this was a brilliant service and although I understand how expensive it is, they only ask for a reasonable £200 deposit and on request, they'll work out payment plans too so you don't have to pay the full amount until a month before your wedding day!

They did also offer a similar package of the same price for videography where they would make a 1-hour video of your full wedding day including all the vows and speeches, a 5-minute highlight video of the day as well as a drone shot over the venue! For another almost £1,800 we couldn't do all that but I just mentioned it in case you were able to do that and then you could get your photography/videography in one place. 
We ended up going with an independent videographer called Taurai Films. We did a lot of research and found that Taurai has not only the best footage but the most relaxed personality too! He's very positive and patient and seems to bring really lovely things out of each wedding he films. We've gone for a 10-hour Full Day package with him that consists of a 1-hour video of the full wedding and then a 3-5 minute highlight video, this cost £1,000, he asked for a £250 deposit and much like the photographer won't be expecting full payment until a month before our wedding day. 

Sorry that this part was SO long but your wedding photos (and possibly video) is going to be the main memory you have of the day, so it's so important to find the right service for you. Out of all the photographers and videographers we researched we chose The Kensington Photographer and Taurai because they promised a "non-intrusive" style to their work, where they won't ask you to stop and pose too much, they'll just buzz around and find the right moments to showcase you at your best on the happiest day of your life! We both loved the idea of that as we don't really like having our picture taken so not having to think about it all on the day is what led us to make our decision. 

I would get on to all of this as early as possible (mainly because of the price), it would be best to begin researching around 12-14 months before so that you've got oodles of time to find the perfect people at the perfect price! Once we've got some wedding photo's to show you I'll add them on here for you just to break up the text a little. 

    10. Research Entertainment 

This is one of the most fun parts of wedding planning; wether you’re looking for a DJ, band, magician or firework display this is your moment to really wow your guests and make your reception as special as you can! 
One word of advice is to check with your venue what you’re allowed to have at the reception, because ours is close to residential houses we aren’t allowed fireworks or pyrotechnics of any kind (good job we didn’t want that!), but once you know what they’ll accept you’ve got free reign to create a fun and exciting reception evening. 
Because me and my partner met at music school, the reception and music throughout the day is one of the most important parts of the wedding for us, we’ve chosen to have a playlist that we made ourselves through Spotify (I’ll leave a picture down below of a bit of playlist so you can get the idea!), and it’s not just a random bunch of music it actually plays in order of songs or albums that were important to us from the start of our relationship up until now, for example we start the day off with Kings of Leon’s album “WALLS” as that was one of the first albums we ever enjoyed as a couple, we think it’s a nice journey through the day and although not everyone will notice each song and know what it means to us, we will! 

So after debating back and forth about whether we should have a wedding band or not, my partner had the brilliant idea of a jazz instrumental band! If you didn’t know, jazz is one of my favourite genres of music and to be honest, I find a lot of wedding bands to be a bit cheesy and just not to our taste but some beautiful instrumental jazz covers of our favourite songs towards the end of the evening sounds perfect! 
If you are looking for an entertainer whether that be a DJ or a wedding band there are plenty of websites that offer loads of lists to find exactly the right thing but just remember to check their availability for your wedding day, that they’re within your budget and most importantly, you like the sound of them and they’ll play the music you want to hear! 
If you don’t want music there’s plenty of other options, you could have a comedian, a magician or even a firework display! But as I said at the start, just make sure whatever you choose is approved by the venue. 
Don’t panic too much about actually booking anyone at the moment I would just have a definite top 3 that you’ve contacted and know they’re available and right for your wedding by around 10 months before the big day so you’ve got plenty of time to decide on the perfect one! 

    11. Begin The Search for Wedding Outfits

For pretty much everyone, but especially people who choose to wear a dress on their big day, picking out your outfit is the most important part of the entire wedding planning. I got my dress over 18 months before the wedding day which, I know, is very early on and although I don’t regret it because I love it and I have loads of time to go to fittings and get it just perfect, I do wish I’d spent more time going into wedding dress shops and boutiques and trying on loads of dresses, more for the memories and experience than anything else. But it wasn't able to happen like that for me as my parents live 3 hours away and my partners' parents live 4 hours away and so do my friends, so although I could have gone on my own to lots of different boutiques, I wanted to have that experience with the people I care about so I settled on one quite early from WED2B. If you haven't heard of WED2B, they're an "off-the-rack" wedding dress shop, the thought of which might come with some negative press but it's actually one of the least stressful ways to go dress shopping. The stores simply keep a wide array of seasonal dresses in sizes from 6-30 and whole host of different styles, but they only have what they keep in store and once those sell they get all new lines in, so although there's no stress, if you find one you like, try not to leave it longer than a few weeks. Also for reference, the lovely people there told me not to be disheartened if my dress runs at least 1 size bigger than my normal size, due to the design and style of most wedding dresses you'll usually end up having to go for a size bigger, mine is a UK size 24-26 which is around 2 sizes bigger than my normal dress size but as this wedding dress has a corset in it, it changes the shape anyway. That was a bit rambly but I hope you get what I'm trying to the dress you love and don't worry about the size on the label!! 

Obviously, I'm not going to go into too much detail about the dress in case my partner reads this but I tried on about 6-7 dresses between August and Ocotber of last year before choosing mine, WED2B made it so easy, relaxing and most importantly, really enjoyable! They even posted my dress for me back to my hometown because I bought it in Manchester with my best friend (and joint maid of honour!) and my partner's mum and I wasn't able to bring it home myself so I'm very grateful they were so kind. 
My dress cost £750 which is expensive but I think it's in the lower price bracket in general for wedding dresses, but don't get me wrong it's beautiful and just talking about it is getting me all excited!! There are still costs coming later on that are to do with tailoring and some little extra bits I might want added on closer to the time but I think around £900 will probably be the overall cost. 
I'm going to leave a picture of me in a wedding dress I tried on but IT IS NOT THE DRESS I HAVE CHOSEN, I just wanted to make that clear to everyone, haha! I just wanted to show off this dress because it's beautiful and although I didn't pick it, it was honestly a close one! 

Of course, you don't have to buy a brand new dress at all, I had planned to get a pre-loved one or rent a dress as these are much more sustainable options, and obviously, the dresses come with a story and you get to give them another happy day. But as I mentioned, all of this would have meant running around to different places on my own trying on different dresses without anyone there with me, and I just didn't want that. But if you do want to go pre-loved, there are plenty of websites that offer pre-loved wedding dresses for quite cheap or sometimes even free, you can also rent designer dresses for the day from a few different websites, there are charity wedding dress shops or of course, if you have a family member willing to give you their dress, that would be a really special one to wear! I spoke to my mum about hers as it's a similar size to me but we very quickly realised my proptions in my arms and shoulders were too broad for the dress but it was a nice thought. 

Obviously, wedding outfits aren't just about dresses, we have to give a little mention to those of you wearing suits! There isn't too much I can say about the suits as myself and my partner are keeping the details a secret from each other but I do know he's spoken to a couple of tailors in our local town and plans to go in with my dad and his dad to get their measurements taken in the autumn, then on that day they'll choose the patterns and styles for their suits. Much the same as the dresses, if you're looking for a more sustainable approach you can buy a suit second hand or rent it for the day very easily from a suit shop, but if it's just a smart but plain looking suit you could always keep it for other special occasions (some people like to keep theirs to bring out for anniversary dinners!). 
In my opinion, it would be best to get your outfit as soon as possible so that you have plenty of time to get the measurements and any extra details just right, I would suggest buying the outfit no later than 10 months before, but it's a very exciting part so it shouldn't be to diffcult to find your perfect outfit relativley quickly.  

This was only a small update because I thought entertainment and choosing wedding outfits were quite big things to talk about (and as you can see they take up quite a few paragraphs), so next time we'll be revising the guestlist, researching wedding invite ideas and booking our first tailors appointment! 

H x 


  1. Amazing reading this, can't wait for the next steps! Makes me so emotional l! We need a wedding facetime ASAP! X

    1. Aww thank you!! I'll message you and get something arranged <3 xx

  2. Yay ❤️ enjoy your planning and don't get stressed. It's all about you and Joseph and your special day but I'm so glad I'll be part of it (I hope lol) love Aunty H xx

    1. Thank you! Yes of course, i think Joe is going to message the family over the coming weeks to get some stuff arranged xx


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